luni, 24 decembrie 2012

STEFAN HRUSCA



duminică, 23 decembrie 2012

MUSIC BUSINNES WITHOUT BORDERS

 

                  Music business without borders,

 

        If you are involved in the entertainment business then you've probably heard a few tall tales. The following is a list of some of the top myths about the music business.

1. People in the music business will help you out of the kindness of their hearts.

Facts:

The music business is called the music business for a reason. It is a business that just so happens to sell music. Businesses are in business to make money. They are not in business to make ART, however they will sell it. You may find a handful of good Samaritans willing to help for free but generally speaking if helping does not benefit the other party, they won't help.

"People (not counting loved ones) will help you if they think your art will make them money. They will not help you if they think your art will not make them money." -David Naggar, Esq. from  The Music Business Explained In Plain English-

2. Since the economic decline people aren't buying music anymore

Facts:

People are buying music, but they aren't buying it in the same way they used to. Sales of CDs may be down but the sale of single tracks is up! If you are still an unbeliever just check iTunes sales records. Reportedly, Apple has sold 10 billion and counting!

3. Music superstars have and are making tons of money.

This is one of the biggest myths in the entertainment business. When you see a Sean Kingston or Lady Gaga on television you may think that they are living the good life, but really the amount of money he/she brings home is really dependent on the terms of their contractual obligations as well as their money management skills. Simply put, if you spend more than you make you are bound to go broke sooner or later.

Need examples:

MC Hammer

Marvin Gaye

Michael Jackson

The fact of the matter is that all of these artists have seen the highs and lows of the music business. Micheal Jackson, the "King of Pop", even had his money woes. No "superstar" is exempt. Good money management skills are needed in order to maintain a "superstar" lifestyle.

4. You can become an overnight celebrity in the music business.

This is one of the most common myths about the music business. People believe that you can sign a record deal and then all of sudden you are magically on magazine covers and receiving Grammy awards. All of this talk is nonsense. At the end of the day it takes a decent amount of leg work, dedication, passion, perseverance, and strong networking relationships to achieve "success" in the music business. NO ONE HAS BECOME SUCCESSFUL OVERNIGHT however, some people have achieved their goals faster than others. Artists such as Wiz Khalifa, Kanye West, and Eminem spent years building their reputation and brands to become the people they are today. This is why working smarter and not harder is essential in the music business.

5. Talent Trumps Work Ethic

In today's music business, talent still counts but work ethic counts for more. An extraordinarily talented person with average work ethic will generally not do as well as someone with extraordinary work ethic and average talent.

A strong work ethic, more often than not, means that you can be consistent which is of the utmost importance in the music business.

Why?

One word. Marketing. Being able to consistently deliver high quality to the consumer is paramount.  This is where work ethic trumps talent. A person that is able to consistently deliver a satisfactory product to the consumer is, in the words of Charlie Sheen, WINNING! Because of our increasingly shortened attention spans, having someone or something consistently in our faces helps in branding the product, service, or person. Ultimately, this results in people getting paid!Simplistic or vulgar messages hated, but loved for the same reasons, manele resembles Romania.Currently, reveals a study by the Romanian Peasant Museum. For those who sing and dance, manele are, the music of the soul "and the source of wealth. researching for those who are, the dream Romanian" a mirror society in which we live.
           Manele is a phenomenon that can not be ignored. Even if you do not believe,great aesthetic, "a group of researchers at the Museum of the Romanian Peasant (MTR) with colleagues in France and the United States began to
study because, anthropological, represent, national musical identity reconstruction ", with inclusion  minority he, invented "the Roma.

duminică, 16 decembrie 2012

RECONCILED RELANTIOSHIPS BETWEN FRIENDS


            Reconciled Relationships Between Friends


       After a distressing breakup comes the desire for reconciliation with ex. Just as it is difficult to deal with the pain of losing the person you love, this reunion is also quite challenging to accomplish. Yet, if you know the right steps to take, those challenges would most likely be lessened. 

      Come To Terms With The BreakupAcceptance is your first step to take if you desire to get back with your ex lover. Accept that the relationship has ended. Acceptance is indeed hard to do, but this will be your means for starting a new and healthier relationship. When you accept what has happened, you also open your awareness toward whatever has gone wrong in the ended relationship.Think of the breakup as an opportunity for the two of you to find each other's misgivings. It is an opportunity to see which areas of the relationship you have failed to deal with appropriately. It is an opportunity for the two of you to renew and change things for the better.You accept the breakup so that you can begin a new relationship with your ex. Rejection of the breakup and just trying to continue on from where you both have left will not be a good idea. With the fresh start, you can do what is right for the relationship and for your ex right from the very beginnin.Impede Contact With ExYou may think that this step is ironic since your aim is to actually get back together with the person you love. However, understand that the purpose of this is to make you not think about your ex at current time. You are not expected to forget your ex and think as if that person does not exist. You would need this time to focus on yourself. Remember that right after accepting the breakup, you have to assess everything that has happened in the relationship. While not in contact with the person, make use of this time to concentrate on what you could have done, yet did not do; on what you have done, but should not do.Think Things Through This is the time you can utilize to also reflect on things in a different perspective.         Determine if the reconciliation you want to achieve is indeed what will make you happy and content. Find out if you simply want to reunite with your ex, just for the mere fact that you have grown so dependent on him/her. Often, people decide to get back with their ex and then later on realize that they are in fact unhappy being together again and they end up hurting each other more.You will need to invest a lot of time, effort and virtues to accomplish being with your ex again; so while you still have not yet done anything to achieve this goal, resolve on whether it is a goal that is worth pursuing. Planning What You Can DoIf you have indeed settled on a decision that reconciliation with your ex is what will make you happy, your next step is to plan your course of action.

        Remember that you need to start anew. You can begin by befriending him/her again. Keep in mind that it is great to start a romance with solid friendship. At first, show your ex that you are a friend he/she can depend on. Also, include in your plan on how you can take care of yourself, on how to become more attractive and compelling to your ex.EGetting Him Back can show how to reunite with your ex in three simple steps. How I Get Him Back is also a recommended book that will lay down an action plan for getting back together with your love.What can we do when we realize that we have wronged someone? The first step is of course achievement in itself, but the problem is not resolved. We could go free, unencumbered by this mistake will be forgiven if the person to whom I was wrong, for what we once sent into it either in thought or deed, remains bound to the new thread will not break than when it comes recognition and forgiveness. 

       We can not do anything about it, which I tied channel iron goes so steadfast and will unravel if we change and we act otherwise. As with all the effects of what we we plant in Creation: certainly they come back into effect each other, but we do not know when and in what form. Instead we should always be prepared by our attitude, so that when each effect will bring us joy or suffering, to be able to use this experience to not damage our environment.After a while we tend to diminish or even change the meaning of the impression received from what we once planted, but thus fall back into old mistakes will be repeated in another form părânduni is that it is something new and good reason. Only indolence and only deceives us always directed towards reconciliation publicized eyes can see right impression and can be used toward fulfillment of closing the circle of events.

miercuri, 12 decembrie 2012

RELATIONSHIP FAILED

                                            
                                                      Relationship failed
       Face it, at some point we have all been heartbroken (After being dumped by an older suitor, I cried so 
hard I thought I was literally dying of a broken heart). Whether your high school sweetheart bid you farewell your senior year of high school, or your spouse decided to call it quits after twenty years of marriage, once that midnight train to Georgia has pulled out of the station, the relationship is officially over.

      While that may be difficult to hear, a severed relationship (of any capacity) is a harsh reality that must be accepted. If that person wanted to be there, then you wouldn't be drowning your sorrows in cheesecake like The Golden Girls. Instead of pouring your energies into factors beyond your control, think about how you can begin the healing process and find an answer to the age-old question... Where do I go from here?

     Despite what people may tell you, its your party and you can cry if you want to. I have never seen tears as a sign of weakness. Rather I have always viewed crying as an opportunity for self-reflection and a much-needed spiritual cleansing (as long as you eventually put your pity-party-pumps back on the shelf where they belong).

     While it is more beneficial to address a complex relationship while there is trouble in paradise, those quiet moments alone after the fact are equally as important. It's important to ask yourself what may have gone wrong in the relationship and also how you may have contributed to its demise. We are so quick to point the blame-finger at the other party, but in all honesty, we have to look inward as well. Unless you were in a committed relationship with the man or woman in the mirror, whether you want to admit it or not, your own actions had some bearing on why you're back on the singles scene.

   Now that you have this time alone, spend this valuable time working on YOU. And if you have truly been honest with yourself, surely you will have identified some opportunities for improvement. Its OK... no matter how put together we THINK we are, there is ALWAYS room for growth and development. Get to know yourself better, make the proper adjustments and only when you're ready, give it another try, and emerge victoriously as the new you. As bleak as it may seem, eventually someone will appreciate who you are and all that you have to offer. It simply takes time.

     P.S. During this self-reflection phase, you may be tempted to call up Mary, Sue and Jane... John, Jack and Paul. Don't. These rebounds are detrimental to the healing process, and although they may provide a night or two of fun, you will only end up feeling more empty than before. Mary, John and their friends can't replace a lost love one or fill that empty void. As cliché as it may sound, only time (spent alone) can heal old wounds. And to be honest, no one really deserves to be a part of all that chaos anyway. So do everyone a small favor and leave that Rolodex or your credenza, your little black book in your drawer and Craigslist right where it belongs. This is your opportunity to be selfish, so make it all about you, all by yourself.

RELATIONAL COMMUNICATION PROCESS


         Communication works best when there is interaction, reaction and interaction, and there is an understanding derived from it. Somewhere in the process is the ability to listen. I feel the best way to explain this is by incorporating the Shannon-Weaver model into this discussion and its application as to why husbands should listen to their wiv.
The sender is widely regarded as the one who initiates the interaction by transmitting his or her thoughts, opinion, or information in a way that a receiver can understand it. The receiver's role is to interpret the sender's thoughts, opinion, or information. He or she completes the process by providing interaction.
     It is widely agreed upon that marriage is a two-way relationship. One gives, the other receives; one has needs that the other tries to meet, and likewise. The bond to their relationship is love, consideration, respect, patience, and faithfulness. No marriage can succeed when one party is giving its all while the other is merely a ravenous consumer or taker.
     Communication is similarly a two-way process, and the parties who participate in it serve dual roles. Once the husband (or wife) has transmitted the initial message, he or she becomes the receiver of the message that's been transmitted by the other spouse. Ideally, this should be done willfully by both, because it is my opinion that effective communication within a marriage produces unity and selflessness.
        The sender's role is to encode the information, thoughts, opinions, and/or actions that may comprise the intended message of words (either written or spoken) in such a way that the receiver can easily and effectively decode the message in terms that he or she can interpret and best understand.
Sufficed to say, if all couples were capable and willing to do this, perhaps a significant portion of relational problems might be solved.

1. The first is the conception of communication as an action-io that you apply to someone else.
It's like "hypodermic needle" because in this approach, you think you're the head squirt party content, just like when you make a shot. Here only one who does the action (communicator) is taken into account. The recipient information, the receiver has a passive role, in this conception transmitter receives no feedback from the receiver and not regulate their behavior according to the interlocutor.

2. A second design (lens) through which we perceive communication is that of "billiard ball" is when applied, cause and effect in communication, we think that people's communication behaviors are due to a number of effects and try to explain as "xa done something in response / response to the aa said / did y ... etc"

At this stage become aware of the receiver, so it's a breakthrough because it is only the transmitter, one that makes communication receives feedback, but still not the correct approach, you think what you do / tell somehow makes on celalalat act / say in a certain way. At this stage, you're still on the wrong track. You are too little aware of the choices we make when we communicate.
Typically, in this situation, you feel things are predictable and controllable.
Hence, there are many times and self fulfilling Prophecies.
3. Aboradrea the right is that of transactional analysis, negotiation waste.
To become more human, more personal need to understand East
this approach and begin to apply it in our lives.
Communication is a transactional process that occurs continuously negotiating waste. When two people talk, each operating with three images: my self (my me), Taul mu (my you) and how I think I see you with me (my your me), so, in total, when suntemoi there six waste that we continuously negotiate.
We also make choice options when talking (negotiating waste)
Therefore I tell you, among the differences between human and nonhuman human is that when you make choices;
and when you're not human, just react, as in the examples decauza effect ...
So now tell you which are the
4 COMMUNICATION choices we make
when negotiating identities.
Sensitivity open (CHOICE 1)
open stereotypy (Choice 2)
Sensitivity closed (CHOICE 3)
OPEN stereotype (choice 4)
and return to
OPEN FIRST CHOICE-sensitivity
When we choose to perceive human characteristics of near us, we recognize and record responses and adjust the message according to this feedback, the dialogue we build together, both participating together and build is what is between us, not me or you.
Active listening (beeps means that listening); many people think that listening, but have a look dead and expression. We nexting, that conversation go on.
Zambia, we feel, we express what we feel, not talking in general terms, vague impersonal and rational, I use it often and try to show that you sincerely reflect our perceptions, they use vague and general, are impersonal and dehumanizing him and the near you. Paragraph is like a robot, not a human.
CHOICE 2 - Stereotype OPEN
It is the position of foreigners on the train. Any person would be in place, he would receive the same information. When you choose this type of communication open, talk about your love life, personal successes and failures. You are open, but you are not aware of the human characteristics of the person you are talking about. Every man in his place would receive the same information from you
Choice 3 - Sensitivity CLOSED
Occurs when you're addressing the person next to you as like "the filler of the rolls" We fulfill multiple roles in life. We are husband / wife, child, mother / father, employer / employee, buyer, etc.. When you are constantly addressing others as like "the filler of the role" and see only their characteristics pertaining to these roles, use dark sensibility.
Imagine an example.
Go to shops and ask three batteries. I speak as a lady such as a seller. If you tell him, oh that beautiful smile you have, or what you dress nice today, already start to be more human and tedresezi as you become aware of her human characteristics, personal and unique.
It is wrong to treat such people? Should not think so. Maybe you are interested in creating a long term relationship with an employee of the supermarket.
But if your wife is constantly treated as just mother, wife, housekeeper, etc-dark sensitivity, it can be inhuman pain. Because marriage is a lifetime relationship and repeatedly treated with sensibiltate closed, people close to, is terribly painful.
Once again, I repeat, we need to begin to realize the communication choices we can make.
You can use them on whosoever, but should be appropriate (APPROPRIATE) for context
The last choice you can make when negotiating waste is
Choice 4 - CLOSED stereotyp
When you say the same things and are not aware of the human side of others.





duminică, 9 decembrie 2012

THE VALUE OF MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIP

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The Value of Maintaining Friendship

           We all have childhood best friends and we often assume that these persons would still be our friends when we are all grown up and even until the day we die. Some people are lucky to keep their childhood friends, especially their best friends. However, most people just grow apart and sadly, some childhood best friends just become people who used to know each other.
What are the factors that affect friendship? There are many reasons why a best friend from childhood can be forgotten. One of the most common reasons would be distance. Moving away and growing apart from each other can have the biggest effect on friendships. Although people would often make extra efforts to keep the communication and to maintain the bond, very few friendships ever succeed.
            You honestly considered not "you do not hide anything" other, but they do not hide what expected of you to hide. It is perhaps paradoxical, but it is, honesty is not verified by you, but by other. Are considered sincere when you say only what he wants and what else expects of you to say.If a friend confesses that she's beautiful and intelligent as she is neither one nor the other, you're not honest. If you say it's ugly and not very smart, are you honest. But I confess that all these have absolutely no importance, as others are things you want to tell them that grind their time in a stupid way, like living a dream, the dream of things that one away truth and happiness then surely you're not honest, you're crazy. It may be strange, but we fear a world "unfavorable" a foreign environment, with which we can communicate face that can not be "honest". To not be alone want people to be honest with us. Only sincerity gives us this certainty that we are surrounded by friends, people who love us, that we are not alone. Therefore, in lonely watches are most denominations, open hearts, people seek one another: just to cancel that feeling of isolation final. Honesty is also, like so many others, an aspect of preservation instinct. In fact, sincerity participate in the complicated feelings and pride class is called friendship and who, we must admit, is one of the most serious reasons to love life. 
                      The same thing happens friendship: you are loved not for what you are, but for what your friend sees and believes in you. You, man, you're always sacrificed. You are loved not for you, but what you give, what can justify, verify, contradict or affirm the friend's feelings. And you can not complain, because you do the same, everybody is the same. What a sad kind of friendship is that each of the friends sacrifices freedom of others. By "freedom" means the sum of its possibilities, its willingness to change, to change, to compromise. You loved her friends were accustomed you to see you on the street to meet you at a local or on the sports field, they used to go with them to the cinema, visiting acquaintances, you like generally to do and what their thinking generally what I think too.  
                   Where are you in all of their feelings? Are decomposed and distributed at will or whim assimilated them, and you do the same. If one day you want to do something other than what is expected of you to do, then you're not a good friend, then uncomfortable, tired, hinders. Sometimes you tolerated, it's all love can give your friends your freedom: tolerance.A few days ago some friends try to talk about death, and it seems I would have said, "Honey, come on and let the crap out of the way." They do not understand that what appears to them as nonsense can mean for me an essential problem. And then I wondered what my friends would say if I commit an act of compromising, but urgently demanded my freedom? And I realized that I would try changing from my point of view. They would try to pass a moment me to understand my madness. I would enact crazy, I would tolerate were        
                     I would leave alone. In no case would pass me. However, true love does not only mean the complete cessation your individuality to move in the other. A friendship not only check you give him the freedom of others. Helping a friend in need of heating your caresses, the surround with "sincerity" is not your thing. Some are real tests of friendship: not to violate freedom of not judging it from your point of view (which may be real and justifiable, but can not match the experience of destiny other), not treasure it by what you it or entertain yourself, but for what it is, for himself, in what he must realize that to get a man. And not just a mannequin. Nevertheless no one asks you, as no one asks you real sincerity, but only so earnestly that he wants. Remember that a friendship does not matter only what the other.
                     Each less than we should. It is our great sin: that we thirst for more, that we thank the quarters and therefore each of us so much fear of ridicule. Not only does it give as they should, but take far less than we offer.



sâmbătă, 8 decembrie 2012

ANEXIETY AND RELATIONSHIPS

                               Anxiety and   relationships
    There are many people who suffer from social anxiety at some point in their lives. Social anxiety can be situational for some, while for others, social anxiety can be intrusive in their lives and impair social relationships. Social anxiety is also often higher among introverts and those who were considered shy as children. Social anxiety in teens and adults can lead to avoidance of social situations which cause a person to feel anxious. Social anxiety varies greatly among those who are affected by it, however, and coping with social anxiety should be tailored to an individual's level of social anxiety.

     There are a number of ways to ease the anxiety symptoms which accompany social anxiety. Many adults learn to cope with social anxiety, or overcome the degree of social anxiety when the issue is addressed thorough self-help methods, or professional counseling. Those who are severely impaired from social relationships or social situations due to a high degree of social anxiety should seek professional help. Others, who deal with low to moderate levels of social anxiety may find the following tips helpful.

     1. Identify the Source of Anxiety

One of the most important factors for decreasing social anxiety reactions is to figure out the root of what may be causing the social anxiety in the first place. Childhood memories and experiences with social anxiety may hold the key for some people, while others may be dealing with social anxiety due to self-image or self-esteem issues. Once the root of the social anxiety is discovered, ways to deal with social anxiety can be tailored to fit.

    2. Take a Deep Breath

Deep breathing exercises, where one inhales deeply and takes deep cleansing breaths before exhaling slowly, can be helpful for lowering anxiety levels before entering social situations which cause increased stress. Deep breathing exercises are designed to produce a sense of calmness, which can be helpful for those who are ready to attempt to enter a social anxiety provoking situation.

    3. Take Baby Steps

Overcoming or coping with social anxiety is not often done in giant leaps. People who deal with social anxiety cope better when they take baby steps in decreasing their anxiety in certain social situations. If the goal is to attend a large party, practice beforehand by going to smaller social events. Small steps will increase confidence levels and help to prepare for more anxiety-provoking social situations.

    4. Become Aware of Self-Talk Messages

Social anxiety is often made worse by the messages people send themselves cognitively. Self-talk, also known as the messages we tell ourselves, can hinder progress with coping if self-talk messages support negative beliefs. If self-talk messages are sending negative thoughts, anxiety will likely increase. The key is to be aware of those self-talk messages in social situations, and replace the negative thoughts with more affirming and positive thoughts.

    5. Enlist a Familiar Person to Assist in New Situations

Social anxiety can be decreased for many people when they are not entering a social situation alone. Friends, relatives, or anyone who can be supportive are good to have around when entering a new social situation. Social anxiety can be decreased when a person feels comfortable, and a familiar person can be a great help to those who have anxiety about certain social situations.

    6. Positive Affirmations

Many of the fears people with social anxiety have can impair them from developing social relationships or going to social events. Social anxiety, unfortunately, must be dealt with in many situations where people have no choice but to attend. Class presentations, public speaking, mandatory parties or celebrations, and work duties may require those who suffer from social anxiety to be present. Positive affirmations can be helpful and writing down a few affirmations on an index card or posting some at home may help some people to cope with anxiety.

    7. Fake it

One of the most priceless words of wisdom for those who are affected by social anxiety is the idea of pretending to be confident, even when anxiety is underneath the surface. Faking a sense of confidence often leads to a decrease in anxiety when one realizes that the situation is not as bad as imagined. Many people get social anxiety at times, and when all else is impossible, faking a sense of calm or comfort may actually work.

    8. Find Distractions

Another way to cope with social anxiety is to create some distractions. Once anxiety symptoms start, create a distraction, shift your mind and thoughts to something else, and try to stay with the new thoughts. A distraction can be as simple as thinking about what you want to do tomorrow, calling someone on your cell phone, or paying attention to something else that does not make you feel uncomfortable. Focusing on the anxiety will only increase it.

    9. Rehearsals

Practicing or role playing how you plan to act in a certain social situation can help some to decrease their level of anxiety. Rehearsing how you want to act in specific social situations can help to prepare for the actual event. If a goal is to meet someone new in a social situation, practicing making small talk with a friend can be helpful and build confidence.

    10. Avoid High Anxiety Situations
   http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Anxiety_and_relationships.html
Avoidance of certain social situations may not sound like a good coping tip, but there are times when certain social situations may cause too much anxiety. Walking into a social situation that is causing significant anxiety ahead of time may not always be the best idea until you are able to relax more and feel comfortable enough to handle the situation. The most important part is to know your own triggers and which situations are on the high end of anxiety, and which situations are moderate or low level anxiety situations. Coping with lower level social situations successfully can build the confidence to attempt those situations which are higher on your list of anxiety-provoking situations.http://gad.about.com/od/selfhelp/a/relprobs.htmhttp://www.psyclinic.ro/Anxietatea%20sociala,%20fobia%20sociala.html