To make a relationship work, it must be clear to both partners
that a relationship is, in fact, work. Love is a wonderful emotion, and
to know love with another person is to have the basis of what it takes
to make a relationship work. But having love without work is like having
a really nice car without gas... you're not going to go anywhere. Any
lasting and successful relationship requires work to keep it moving
forward and only if you work towards maintaining the following traits
can you truly understand how to make a relationship work.
is paramount when it comes to making a relationship work. Many couples
believe that one partner should know what the other is thinking and then
should act accordingly... this is nonsense.
While you should know
your partner well enough to know what your partner needs to some
degree, we are not mind readers, and to truly get what you want or need
you must communicate that. You cannot assume that your partner will
somehow know exactly how you like to be loved if you've never
communicated this information implicitly. To know how to make a
relationship work is to know how to talk.
Honesty and Trust
traits go hand in hand in making a relationship work. You have to be
honest to your partner in order to gain the trust you desire. You also
have to know how to trust your partner. Many couples mistake having an
issue about what's appropriate to having an issue with trust. People in
committed relationships should understand the difference.
clarify, if you're not comfortable with your partner hanging out in
strip clubs Thursday through Sunday every weekend does not mean you lack
trust, it just mean that that type of behavior is not necessarily
appropriate for someone in a committed relationship.
make a relationship work, you must have loyalty to your partner. You
support your partner, always, especially in the company of others. Never
show "dissension in the ranks", so to speak. Any disagreements the two
of you have must be settled behind closed doors. If you want your
relationship to work you need to keep all unnecessary parties out of you
and your partner's business.
is key in any relationship. To make a relationship work, you must
genuinely appreciate your partner, and take every opportunity to show
your gratitude. The worst feeling to have in a relationship is to not
feel appreciated. Don't be stingy with the "thank you's" and the "I love
you's". Snuggle up to a movie at the end of the day and randomly
massage your partner's feet because you know they've worked hard all
day, whether in the home or at the office.
These are just a few
important traits to make a relationship work. While many others exist,
following these few will get any couple off to a great start and send
them well on their way to a long and happy relationship.
Although it can be difficult to maintain a harmonious relationship of the couple, it's worth to try.